Children like to play. Adults tend to take themselves a bit too seriously. As parents we juggle lots of responsibilities and we juggle relationships. When you are with your children please be completely with your children, turn off the cell phone and the TV and enter their world of awe, mystery, wonder and vulnerability. See the world with new eyes. You don’t have to have all the answers and it is okay to be vulnerable despite what blockbuster movies would like us to think.
As a parent I had lots of questions, existential questions. I found that keeping a journal was very handy, at least it relieved some of my anxiety. Later on I started a dream journal and discovered that my dreams became more relevant and informative as I gave them more attention.
I urge you to keep a journal as a young parent. Your children will be growing so fast, they will say so many adorable things and it will all be lost if you don’t write it down. Taking photographs is not the same thing. Write down your feelings about being a parent, it’s a tough job! and when you get stressed out you don’t want to take it out on the kids or the spouse so use the journal to help you manage your moods.
I just ordered Kathleen Adams’ Journal to the Self and finding it full of excellent advice. Let me know how your journaling goes!